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2010 Goals

 Not so much resolutions but directions I'd like to head in or things I'd like to achieve:
  • Really enjoy the rest of our trip. Make new friends on our travels. Reconnect with old friends in Australia. Have a great time with my family in Australia and New Zealand. Continue to have a fantastic time with Sharon.
  • Be excited to be back in San Francisco.
  • Find a job that's satisfying and challenging. I'm still not quite sure what that looks like but I'm tempted to find a position that involves supervising other people which I've never done before. My experience with great, terrible and average managers kind of scares me, but that's the point. I'll want some kind of safety net like a good mentor and perhaps even formal training.
  • Live frugally. I'd like us to be on our way towards a down payment for a home by 2011. Saving for the trip and even more being on the trip we've learned to live simply and cheaply and it's great.
  • Find somewhere great and cheap to live. This ties into the previous item, but goes beyond that. By the time we left San Francisco I was ready to leave San Francisco. Our beautiful apartment was beautiful, but I'd like to own something beautiful which means living somewhere cheap for a while. By "great" I mean somewhere that has a bit of charm, a sense of community around it and where I can get coffee, groceries and public transport to work on foot easily. I think this is entirely possible in the Bay Area but quite likely not possible in San Francisco (I don't want to live in the Sunset, Richmond, etc). A lot of this will tie into the job question.
  • Make music. With people or by myself. Regularly or occasionally. In a structured context or strumming on my guitar while I wait for a compile. It doesn't matter I've failed to make any music for the past few years and I know that it's a missing piece.
  • Spend more time nerding out with nerds. I love to talk about ideas with interesting people but it's not something I've made enough time for in the past few years. In San Francisco with its political homogeneity and massive computer industry this will generally mean participating in tech meetups or clubs. Like music it takes time, is easily ignored but makes me happy.
  • Write some software that either makes me some money or makes people excited. I'm often not great at picking projects that will keep my attention to a successful completion. I'd love to be part of an awesome free software community but I'd also love to try my hand at entrepreneur.
  • Start the baby making. Really everything else on the list is just setting myself up to be ready to devoting myself to a family while keeping myself satisfied as an individual.

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alibee
Jan. 4th, 2010 10:15 pm (UTC)
This list made me excited for you guys, and watching what happens for you both in the year to come. It's weird that I love the idea of the things that you list but for some reason feel that they are outside of my own abilities. That's something I need to investigate.

Damn you, making me THINK!

Also, on the last point, if you or Sharon have questions about babies, I HAVE TOO MUCH KNOWLEDGE. Feel free to ask for my own experience, I won't give it to you otherwise because I think people offering advice w/o being asked is obnoxious in this area. (Except the "making baby" bit, you're on your own there ;P )
dearanxiety
Jan. 5th, 2010 08:18 pm (UTC)
where do babies come from???

seriously, we might have questions. i've already been compiling information and thinking about things like natural childbirth, midwives, doulas, cloth vs disposable diapers because i am crazy. but first we have to get the baby in my belly.
alibee
Jan. 5th, 2010 08:38 pm (UTC)
Babies come from the stork, if you're asking my parents, because their daughter sure as hell hasn't had teh sexxins.

I did a drug-free labor, and I cloth dipe and am officially an extended breastfeeder. I didn't use a doula or a midwife and had a hospital birth with an OB that I would HIGHLY recommend but I know a lot of LJers who have had home births, etc., so I could point you in that direction for good info.
dearanxiety
Jan. 5th, 2010 08:39 pm (UTC)
definitely not into the home birth. leaning toward the natural childbirth in hospital and maybe with a doula and/or midwife along with ob/gyn. once we have jobs and thus insurance, i'll ask about ob/gyns. i liked the one i had a lot but i don't know if she's who i'd want to do childbirth with, to be honest.
loic
Jan. 5th, 2010 08:54 pm (UTC)
I'm sure nothing is out of your abilities. It might be beyond your inclination, interest or motivation. Doing stuff is easy, deciding to do stuff is hard. At least that's what I keep telling myself.

I think when we get back I'll start educating myself about babies (wtf is a doula - Sharon keeps delling me but I keep picturing some kind of shaman). I think I understand how to get the ball rolling, but after that it's all vague.
alibee
Jan. 5th, 2010 09:02 pm (UTC)
It's pretty much a birth advocate who helps you make informed decisions, especially during the long and exhausting labor process. They can also help as a birth coach but the true extent of their involvement is defined by you and Sharon. Brandon was against them because he felt that it was his job to be my coach and he didn't want someone else standing in his shoes, so to speak; they are most beneficial, imo, if you are worried that your OB or other medical establishment will try to bully you into making birth decisions that are more in the interest of the doctor/hospital than in the interest of you and your labor desires.
loic
Jan. 5th, 2010 09:09 pm (UTC)
I really hope that we'll be able to feel comfortable and confident with where and who we're giving birth with. It's nice to know you can hire a bodyguard/lawyer for the occasion though.
caladri
Jan. 4th, 2010 10:33 pm (UTC)
Good directions to head in! Good luck :)
loic
Jan. 5th, 2010 08:57 pm (UTC)
Thanks!
hub_
Jan. 4th, 2010 10:40 pm (UTC)
For the place where to live for not too much money, there is Canada :-) Albeit not great job-wise :-(
loic
Jan. 5th, 2010 08:58 pm (UTC)
I love Canada (particularly Vancouver and Victoria where I lived as a kid) but it's too fucking cold. San Francisco is also too cold. Yeah I'm a wimp.
hub_
Jan. 5th, 2010 09:13 pm (UTC)
Vancouver, cold? Mwaaaahhhh....

(yeah, I had to say that, currently 7C)
loic
Jan. 6th, 2010 03:42 pm (UTC)
Okay, but where I'm from the lowest ever recorded temperature was -0.7C. In July (the dead of winter) the average high temperature is 18.4C.
enf
Jan. 4th, 2010 10:56 pm (UTC)
Best of luck finding somewhere great in the Bay Area outside of San Francisco -- let me know if you find it. Piedmont Avenue has coffee, groceries, and reasonable access to transportation, but if the Richmond isn't tolerable, I can't imagine that it would be either.
dearanxiety
Jan. 5th, 2010 08:19 pm (UTC)
i think that ian and i both love piedmont ave like 1000x more than we like the richmond! it's high on our list if ian doesn't work in the south bay!
loic
Jan. 6th, 2010 03:42 pm (UTC)
I love most things about the Richmond more (food, proximity, etc), just not the weather.
loic
Jan. 5th, 2010 09:03 pm (UTC)
The thing I don't like about the Richmond is the chilly weather. Piedmont Ave is decidedly sunnier. Living in Oakland and working in Mountain View you might have forgotten that there's somewhere in the Bay Area where it's miserable every morning for most of the year (all of San Francisco) and every evening (the western part of San Francisco).
thefon
Jan. 4th, 2010 11:36 pm (UTC)
Almost exactly the same list for me.
Add "do some study".
Thinking about moving from London back to Perth in a couple of years.
loic
Jan. 5th, 2010 09:05 pm (UTC)
I'd like to move back to Perth at some point. Probably not till our cat dies, we have kids, buy a house and pay a lot of it off. 8-12 years? Depressing but probably realistic.

As for study, I never got much out of it without a goal. Perhaps new job challenges would motivate me to do an MBA or some similar beast, but I think for me going back to school will only be because I really have to to learn what I want.
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loic
Jan. 5th, 2010 09:06 pm (UTC)
Uh huh. Luckily I don't post that much.
egoldberg
Jan. 5th, 2010 04:45 am (UTC)
You're really lucky to be a dev w/open source network. I'm sure you can find so many great places to live which are affordable, in a multitude of countries.
loic
Jan. 5th, 2010 09:07 pm (UTC)
True, but the most interesting, profitable work for both of us is in the Bay Area and Sharon has her heart set on giving birth in the US. We do talk about moving to Europe for some period of time with small children whose sponge-like minds can absorb language at a high rate though.
egoldberg
Jan. 6th, 2010 03:27 pm (UTC)
My own observations are closer to a tweak of what you've said: "True, but most of the interesting, profitable work..."

There's a huge startup scene in Israel, Google has offices worldwide, and so forth. Silicon Valley has lots going, but I really don't think they have a monopoly on lucrative and engaging employment.

Either way, looking forward to seeing what you come up with when you return.
egoldberg
Jan. 6th, 2010 03:29 pm (UTC)
...and can't speak for library work.
dearanxiety
Jan. 11th, 2010 11:13 am (UTC)
library stuff i can sort of do anywhere - especially at my level. BUT it would have to be english language, so that limits us to countries that are english language speaking (as their official language) or english language libraries in other countries (including schools but school libraries aren't generally my thing).
loic
Jan. 11th, 2010 11:15 am (UTC)
And as Linda's friends who work for the international school in Prague said, it's mostly the kids of senior employees of multinationals.
egoldberg
Jan. 11th, 2010 03:52 pm (UTC)
Ulpan in 8 months, and you can volunteer in the Palestianian Territories every weekend! ;-)
dearanxiety
Jan. 11th, 2010 11:11 pm (UTC)
ha. just like at home, i'm happy to volunteer in my free time, but a lady's gotta make a living! at home it's most recently been with kids in maximum security prisons...they speak english, sort of.
loic
Jan. 6th, 2010 03:44 pm (UTC)
Yeah, the is interesting stuff everywhere, but there's just so much more in Silicon Valley. For Sharon language is the biggest issue - I could find English language work pretty much anywhere, but libraries are of course in the local language. Her lack of Spanish language skills actually hinders her career in Oakland (though not too much - they have tons of Spanish speakers on staff).
dearanxiety
Jan. 5th, 2010 08:19 pm (UTC)
<3
loic
Jan. 5th, 2010 09:07 pm (UTC)
:-P
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