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2010 Goals

 Not so much resolutions but directions I'd like to head in or things I'd like to achieve:
  • Really enjoy the rest of our trip. Make new friends on our travels. Reconnect with old friends in Australia. Have a great time with my family in Australia and New Zealand. Continue to have a fantastic time with Sharon.
  • Be excited to be back in San Francisco.
  • Find a job that's satisfying and challenging. I'm still not quite sure what that looks like but I'm tempted to find a position that involves supervising other people which I've never done before. My experience with great, terrible and average managers kind of scares me, but that's the point. I'll want some kind of safety net like a good mentor and perhaps even formal training.
  • Live frugally. I'd like us to be on our way towards a down payment for a home by 2011. Saving for the trip and even more being on the trip we've learned to live simply and cheaply and it's great.
  • Find somewhere great and cheap to live. This ties into the previous item, but goes beyond that. By the time we left San Francisco I was ready to leave San Francisco. Our beautiful apartment was beautiful, but I'd like to own something beautiful which means living somewhere cheap for a while. By "great" I mean somewhere that has a bit of charm, a sense of community around it and where I can get coffee, groceries and public transport to work on foot easily. I think this is entirely possible in the Bay Area but quite likely not possible in San Francisco (I don't want to live in the Sunset, Richmond, etc). A lot of this will tie into the job question.
  • Make music. With people or by myself. Regularly or occasionally. In a structured context or strumming on my guitar while I wait for a compile. It doesn't matter I've failed to make any music for the past few years and I know that it's a missing piece.
  • Spend more time nerding out with nerds. I love to talk about ideas with interesting people but it's not something I've made enough time for in the past few years. In San Francisco with its political homogeneity and massive computer industry this will generally mean participating in tech meetups or clubs. Like music it takes time, is easily ignored but makes me happy.
  • Write some software that either makes me some money or makes people excited. I'm often not great at picking projects that will keep my attention to a successful completion. I'd love to be part of an awesome free software community but I'd also love to try my hand at entrepreneur.
  • Start the baby making. Really everything else on the list is just setting myself up to be ready to devoting myself to a family while keeping myself satisfied as an individual.

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alibee
Jan. 4th, 2010 10:15 pm (UTC)
This list made me excited for you guys, and watching what happens for you both in the year to come. It's weird that I love the idea of the things that you list but for some reason feel that they are outside of my own abilities. That's something I need to investigate.

Damn you, making me THINK!

Also, on the last point, if you or Sharon have questions about babies, I HAVE TOO MUCH KNOWLEDGE. Feel free to ask for my own experience, I won't give it to you otherwise because I think people offering advice w/o being asked is obnoxious in this area. (Except the "making baby" bit, you're on your own there ;P )
dearanxiety
Jan. 5th, 2010 08:18 pm (UTC)
where do babies come from???

seriously, we might have questions. i've already been compiling information and thinking about things like natural childbirth, midwives, doulas, cloth vs disposable diapers because i am crazy. but first we have to get the baby in my belly.
alibee
Jan. 5th, 2010 08:38 pm (UTC)
Babies come from the stork, if you're asking my parents, because their daughter sure as hell hasn't had teh sexxins.

I did a drug-free labor, and I cloth dipe and am officially an extended breastfeeder. I didn't use a doula or a midwife and had a hospital birth with an OB that I would HIGHLY recommend but I know a lot of LJers who have had home births, etc., so I could point you in that direction for good info.
dearanxiety
Jan. 5th, 2010 08:39 pm (UTC)
definitely not into the home birth. leaning toward the natural childbirth in hospital and maybe with a doula and/or midwife along with ob/gyn. once we have jobs and thus insurance, i'll ask about ob/gyns. i liked the one i had a lot but i don't know if she's who i'd want to do childbirth with, to be honest.
loic
Jan. 5th, 2010 08:54 pm (UTC)
I'm sure nothing is out of your abilities. It might be beyond your inclination, interest or motivation. Doing stuff is easy, deciding to do stuff is hard. At least that's what I keep telling myself.

I think when we get back I'll start educating myself about babies (wtf is a doula - Sharon keeps delling me but I keep picturing some kind of shaman). I think I understand how to get the ball rolling, but after that it's all vague.
alibee
Jan. 5th, 2010 09:02 pm (UTC)
It's pretty much a birth advocate who helps you make informed decisions, especially during the long and exhausting labor process. They can also help as a birth coach but the true extent of their involvement is defined by you and Sharon. Brandon was against them because he felt that it was his job to be my coach and he didn't want someone else standing in his shoes, so to speak; they are most beneficial, imo, if you are worried that your OB or other medical establishment will try to bully you into making birth decisions that are more in the interest of the doctor/hospital than in the interest of you and your labor desires.
loic
Jan. 5th, 2010 09:09 pm (UTC)
I really hope that we'll be able to feel comfortable and confident with where and who we're giving birth with. It's nice to know you can hire a bodyguard/lawyer for the occasion though.